Joseph was supposed to go to TaeKwonDo graduation tonight but was whiney and pouty about it and I just couldn’t deal with it, so we didn’t go.
He seems to like TKD when he’s there, but pushing him to go is a nightmare. And, if they are doing something he doesn’t like, it becomes a horrendous situation.
I’ve come to the realization though, that he’s been doing this for 1.5 years now and he’s never *really* loved going. Not like he likes riding his bike or playing with his friends. It’s always been an activity that Ron and I have pushed on him.
So, I’m going to ease up. His eye tic was *very* noticeable tonight, probably due to the stress and tension when I reminded him we had to go. His biggest complaint was that he doesn’t know the form (which is true) and anytime he doesn’t, he knows he’s going to fail when in front of everyone. Even though I say “just try your hardest”, he knows he won’t be able to.
After what I learned over Thanksgiving about anxiety down the Yancey/Decker family line, why in the world am I pushing him to do something he’s SOOOO uncomfortable with? He’s only 7 years old!!
So, I’ve decided that since we’re contracted for TKD for another 20 months (ugh!) he can go whenever he wants and we’ll just make it a more fun activity. He loves to work on his staff and if we can somehow translate that to the other equipment and/or the other activities, maybe he’ll still reach black belt level. Just not at a 2 months per graduation pace!